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I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Thank you.

I deeply regret posting, although I got some good ideas.

If/when the student drops by my office and if a good opening comes up, I will kindly try to work in the idea of the social rules for the class and area. This student appears kind of isolated, and I think these kinds of things contribute. If she doesn't seem receptive to some ideas, I'll just drop it.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Yes. Thank you. They are. I am always thankful when professors take an interest and try to make sure they are well prepared.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I like all my students. If I can give tips that might make a difference, I might do so if I feel the student would want the input.

My sons are in the college age group. They have professors who also act as mentors.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I am very comfortable talking to students about attire which often comes up. I had one show up for a career fair in shorts and a t-shirt. I explained that she looked nice in her outfit, but employers would not be likely to consider her when dressed so casually. She ran back to her room and changed. She got a job and thanked me.

At a very fancy country club event, several students asked questions. Most were not sure where to put empty cups/plates. I very quietly nodded toward the small tables to the side. The staff cleared those so fast, my students did not notice. I told them those were the magic disappearing dish tables. They were laughing about that as we drove home.

When it's informal, I just want them to all have fun. This has always worked fine. The YAs share and enjoy. They have their informal rules for fairness. If there are extra burgers etc, some may split those. If food is left over, they work that out. Each may take an extra piece of fudge etc. I tell them that I don't need the extra food usually, and it's typical that I make more than needed.

This really is a situation I've not seen before.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I'm careful on privacy issues or try to be. I hoped to be very general and get some ideas. This came up both times we had "fun" days. I thought the first time was just a favorite dessert thing. When it happened again and with rather small amounts to share around due to grilling time and batches, it appeared more like a pattern. Also, the last batch was the expensive gourmet brand (which I did note). Best for last I was thinking. I rather doubt eveyone even got to sample that last batch.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I have hosted for other classes prior. This has never come up. Yes. I can see the reactions of others in the class. I'm honestly not sure if X notices or cares. I'm working and interacting, so I notice eye rolls and glance up and see what is going on. I'll be across the room or in the second case outside with her across the courtyard leaving.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Thank you CHers for the thoughts and ideas.

I like X, or it wouldn't make any difference one way or the other.

Other than the desserts once, I bought and made the food including grilling. That doesn't leave much time to really see what is going on. I do know the meat walked before eveyone was done with the party. As for the left overs, I'd have suggested sharing them (if there had been any at the end).

I have asked that the thread be deleted. I did get some good ideas from what I would consider foodie friends (as a member of this board). The name calling and bashing rather caught me off guard. If the question so annoyed some members of this board, why not skip over the post?

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Thanks. Someone earlier just suggested a session on that beforehand. That would be easy to do. I could cover hostess gifts etc and proper attire. I've had a couple show up in sweats for more formal events.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Oh. That's a good plan. Sadly, this is the end of the semester. If I do this class again, I can include that though. Appreciate the idea.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Yes. She made comments about other boring classes and about how learning math was a total waste of time.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Thanks. I'm getting the exact opposite from another member lower on the thread. I guess the age is the issue. Can/should I address "manners?" With high school kids, I'd think yes. For me, this is kind of a gray area. On one hand, X is an adult (though young). She might be insulted that I would take time to discuss this. On the other hand, I am concerned that these kinds of behaviors could hurt her chances for employment and advancement.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

It's a food based class. Linked to social, history, political, and religious elements.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

No. She will find one thing she likes and pack up as much as she can and leave. The things she doesn't like, she leaves sitting on the plate.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I am the prof.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

No. Not poor.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

She's in the class.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

Class parties. College.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

I'm Taking the Food - No Invitation or Discussion

I don't want to be too detailed . . . but here's the general scenario.

Party with young adults.

One YA brings a dessert which is delicious. I overhear person X ask to take home the leftovers (about half the dessert). YA dessert maker says she promised the leftovers to some friends who helped out. Thinking that's the end of the discussion I move around to do some clean up.

I notice person X kind of stalking YA but guess they are just chatting.

But . . . I see X ends up leaving with a huge cup of the dessert. I'd estimate four to five typical servings.

Same group - different gathering.

Meat is grilled in batches. Basically they are samples. So, everyone (17 total) kind of eyeball and take what would be a fair share until the last batch. Person X fills her bowl heaping with about a quarter of the final batch. I do not see her do this, but I do see her walking away and know she has left with her afternoon snack, because the napkin on top of the bowl is not large enough to hide the mountain of meat heaped up in the bowl. Again, I'm cleaning etc. and she's some distance away and headed off.

In addition to all this, X also makes it a point to talk loudly about the foods she doesn't like after having taken large shares of those foods (made by others, donated, or purchased and free to her). "This is just nasty," would be an example. "My Grandma makes much better cake than this." You get the picture I think.

On top of this, every YA in the group, at a minimum, picks up their empty plates, cups, napkins, and some help with wipe down and so on. Not X. I end up having to clean up her mess as she's walking off with the "good" food. Yes. She leaves her plate of rejected "not good enough for her" foods there for all to see.

Would it make sense to speak with her privately about this? I would say something light right on the spot, but I bascially pick up the host duties and only catch the aftermath. The other YAs would not want the food after it had been plopped on her plate.

Dec 03, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

Hamburger Press?

I never press hamburger. You can get uniform looking burgers, but you press out the air and have a dense burger that does not cook or grill up as well. A lightly patted burger will have more juice and flavor.

Dec 02, 2012
CyndiA in Cookware
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People who eat the food for sale in supermarkets - would you say something?

Unless the store offers samples or unless you ask for a sample, then eating food sold by weight means that others pick up the cost. The only real difference is that the store eats the cost for the "by pound" and passes it along to customers, and the individual customer covers the theft if it's priced per container and someone eats part of that.

Dec 02, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

People who eat the food for sale in supermarkets - would you say something?

Perhaps you could carry what you need if you know you have medical issues. I really doubt anyone wants you in a coma or hauled away by ER. But, you know your health issues. If every person with such issues grabbed a water or whatever and put it down without paying, then you know someone else is picking up the tab.

Dec 02, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

People who eat the food for sale in supermarkets - would you say something?

If I'm buying by weight, I'm not eating across the store or in line. Many stores do offer samples (thanks). But, when you buy per weight, then I can't imagine eating before paying. Yes. That is stealing.

Dec 02, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

Thanksgiving turkey challenges - teeny tiny oven

Yes. It is more or less just food coloring.

Oct 21, 2012
CyndiA in Home Cooking

Thanksgiving turkey challenges - teeny tiny oven

I had to work (from home) one Thanksgiving - graphic lay out. I put a turkey breast in the crock pot. Got the larger oval one so the lid would close. It was moister than baked or grilled. Doesn't look as pretty but if you slice it to serve then it doesn't matter on that. Got a thumbs up from the guys here and was the easiest bird I've ever done.

Oct 20, 2012
CyndiA in Home Cooking

"But You'll Like Our..."

I agree. I never push anyone. I may note that I use different ingredients in a classic dish (cream cheese in lasagna which I prefer to cottage cheese). I'll say, "If you want to give it a try, that's fine. If you don't like it, you don't have to push it around your plate." The boys confirm that I have no problem with anyone giving something a try (or not) and then leaving the extra bites. They were kind of picky when younger but eat almost anything now, so I think that approach worked out.

Oct 20, 2012
CyndiA in General Topics

cooking a smaller meal on a large grill?

You can offset with charcoal on one end. I'd suggest, however, that you just get a Weber Smokey Joe for a couple of steaks or burgers. They cost $30 or less and last forever. I write on grilling/smoking. Not associated with any company. But, I'd rather do a small grill and clean up when it's just a couple of people.

Oct 11, 2012
CyndiA in General Topics

Best Eastern NC BBQ

No. BBQ over charcoal does not taste the same. If it's briquette, there is a marked difference. Natural lump charcoal or even pellets are closer to the wood kissed smoke flavor, but it's different.

I'm NC local and have a Barbecue Master blog (more grilling focused for people on home units), so I like the variations. The flavor variations are there though, so a wood burner restuarant does have a different note than a charocal.

Oct 06, 2012
CyndiA in Southeast

Foods you grew up eating but don't fix for yourself or your family

I always liked liver and onions pan fried in cast iron. Grandparents raised a cow/pig etc. and butchered. Parents bought a half cow (from a farmer). So. there was liver. I don't often see it at the grocery store, and my family now think they don't like it, so I don't buy it and cook it.

Oct 06, 2012
CyndiA in General Topics

Servers' familiar behaviour

I have never had a server sit down at the table, and I'm in the rural South. Often I do know the server well, and we might ask about family etc. But, they are busy, and I'd think it would take more time to sit down. Outside my area, I'd be rather confused by the person taking the order sitting down at the table/booth. I don't know that I'd mention it, but I'd not go back if I did and the manager responded as you noted.

Oct 01, 2012
CyndiA in Not About Food

Help, being forced to go to Olive Garden.

I don't think you are being "forced" to go anywhere. You asked where your friends would like to eat. They may not even know the options (being from "out of town"). They may hope to keep the costs reasonable.

If you want to micro-manage the meal or host at the level where you feel comfortable, just pick the place and treat the friends. It seems they must like Italian, so you could have selected a local place that they might not know about and would meet your standards.

Given the title of your post, I doubt any suggestions would impress you, so I'd say to just go, smile, and enjoy the company of your friends.

Sep 29, 2012
CyndiA in Chains