I'm all for taking out the birthday guy/gal to celebrate... but more often these days, I find that the bday guy/gal is picking the restaurant (often pricey and not one i would have chosen) and sending out invites/evites to join them in celebrating their birthday. If it's that kind of an invitation, then they are the host and I firmly believe they should be paying.
Take a kid's birthday party, for example. The parents invite the kid's friends to join them at a party venue. THEY are the hosts and hence THEY pay, and the guests just come with gifts.
If I suggest that we take the birthday girl (unrelated to me, by the way, because if it's for my own wife, then I have no business proposing it unless I am paying for everyone) out for lunch/dinner, then, by all means, we will be treating her for a meal. We can even go the extra step and ask her where she would want to go. But I think it's ridiculous for her to go around sending out 100 invitations to a fancy restaurant and expect people to come and pay for their food as well as split the cost of hers and her husband's. Then there's the gift portion. Many people, from the kindness of their hearts bring gifts as well!!
Not that it's a trade-off, but I always thought a "free" meal is a pre-thank you to a gift that you'll probably get for your birthday.
It really bothers me when I get these "pay for me and bring a gift too" invites.
hi curious student.
i share your addiction to these coconut macaroons! other macaroons seem soggy compared to the ones from le pain quotidiens! have you had any luck in being able to locate a recipe? if so, please won't you share?? thanks in advance!