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I don't want to share my dessert!

We're supposed to go out again early next week. I will keep you posted, but be assured I will not be fake sneezing on the dessert or dousing it with fake digestive meds. :)

Nov 15, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

I replied upthread without reading all the new posts, but yes, you are correct that the cost of an extra dessert is not an issue.

Nov 15, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

The money is not an issue – we take turns paying the whole bill, and an extra dessert would not break the bank for either one of us. She never orders her own dessert regardless of whose turn it is to pay.

Nov 15, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

So a few of us in this thread have wondered why it is that servers assume a dessert is meant to be shared, automatically placing the dessert in the center of the table and bringing silverware for all. This happens at restaurants at all price points, and regardless of the size of the dessert. You don't see this happening with any other course. Anybody in the industry care to weigh in on this?

Nov 14, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

To answer your questions, we often share apps, but when that happens it is always discussed and mutually agreed that we are sharing before we order. And we only share apps that are conducive to sharing (like calamari, or grape leaves, or spring rolls).

We do not share salads or entrees. We make selections on our own (without input from the other) and eat our own. It has never been suggested or assumed that we are sharing those.

With dessert, this friend takes a cursory glance at the menu and if she says anything about it before setting it aside, it’s that she’s too full (or sometimes, watching calories) to order anything. She never suggests sharing or splitting. Neither do I. As with my entrée, I choose what I want for dessert without asking for her input (she doesn’t volunteer any input, either) and when the server comes, I place my order as “I’ll have…”. She tells the server “nothing for me; I’ll just have a bite of hers”. Out comes the dessert, always to the middle of the table, with utensils for both. Yes, she really does eat half the dessert – anytime my spoon is in my mouth, hers is in the dessert.

As for payment arrangements, we take turns treating each other.

We have tentative plans to get together for dinner early in the week before Thanksgiving, and I definitely intend on either ordering two of the same dessert (it’s my turn to treat), or just telling her before the server comes that I want my whole dessert.

Nov 14, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

We take turns picking up the whole check.

Nov 14, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

Thanks, all, for the suggestions. I’ve tried suggesting two desserts (“I can’t decide between X and Y; want to get both and share?”) and have been met with the usual “too full”. I generally don’t really want half of one dessert and half of another, anyway. I want one dessert, for myself, to eat at my own pace.

Taking it to go could work sometimes, but I consider my dessert to be part of my meal and I really want to sit at the table, drink my coffee, and continue catching up with my friend.

Guess I’ll have to be direct, though I really wish servers wouldn’t assume that every dessert is meant to be a shared dessert, especially when my order is worded as “I’ll have….” and not “we’ll share…”.

Nov 11, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

I don't want to share my dessert!

I get together with a friend for dinner once or twice a month. We have a great time, but there’s something she does that drives me bonkers. When it’s time to order dessert, she declines to order anything and tells the server she’ll have “just a taste” or “just a bite” of mine. Of course, the server brings two spoons with the dessert and my friend winds up polishing off half my dessert! This happens every time we go out (I realize I’ve enabled it by never saying anything), and it’s not because she can’t afford to order her own.

Dessert is my favorite part of a meal, and I don’t want to share. Would it be completely rude and petty to tell her to keep out of my dessert? How do I approach this? Or do I just need to get over it?

If it matters, assume a restaurant that does not have outsized desserts.

Nov 11, 2011
Melody. in Not About Food

GREAT MIAMI SPICE EXPERIENCE

And Mama Lila's, though it's not participating in Miami Spice.

Aug 09, 2008
Melody. in Florida

GREAT MIAMI SPICE EXPERIENCE

Ortanique on the Mile, Pascals on Ponce, La Cofradia, Por Fin, and Palme d'Or.

Aug 09, 2008
Melody. in Florida

Foodie and wine suggestions for a week in Miami Beach

Miami Beach is more "scene" than fantastic food/wine, though I like Talula, Casa Tua, and Nemo.

For your fine dining experience, I'd suggest Palme d'Or at the Biltmore Hotel in Coral Gables. Amazing food and extensive wine list.

Jun 29, 2008
Melody. in Florida

Lunch in Miami area

Ortanique on the Mile.

Jun 26, 2008
Melody. in Florida

How's the food at The Breakers?

I'd suggest Grove Isle, but it's quiet and (relatively) secluded and definitely not Cancun-ish. You'll need a car if you want to go out and do things. But it's charming and it's got personality. Their restaurant, Baleen, is very good.

If you're looking for more of a "scene" and you want to be in the middle of things, go elsewhere. South Beach has some good restaurants but I find most of the popular ones to be overrated.

Mandarin Oriental is a good suggestion, too.

Jun 26, 2008
Melody. in Florida

Miami caterers?

Ditto Joy Wallace and Whisk.

Jun 26, 2008
Melody. in Florida

Sheba Ethiopian - Design District

Thanks for the comments. I'm probably going to check it out this weekend.

Jun 25, 2008
Melody. in Florida

Sheba Ethiopian - Design District

Has anyone been to Sheba? I've never had Ethiopian food and am curious to try it. Is it worth visiting? Will they wrinkle their noses if I ask for silverware? :)

Jun 24, 2008
Melody. in Florida