Okay, I feel compelled to mention that I also brought it as a "safe" dessert item to eat, for my kids, because although she knows they have food allergies, she has never accomodated them in the past. Although it was allergy-friendly, however, it wasn't a weird or funky or health-food gross dessert.
Point taken on the bringing something that wasn't requested. However, I still think it's over the top to try to give it back.
Edited to add: she did serve the cake.
I don't know; I thought it was standard etiquette to bring something, either flowers, wine or an edible, to a dinner/party. I've never encountered anyone either taking something back afterward or trying to give a person back their contribution.
I'm not upset, I'm trying to understand what the proper etiquette is.
This is such a weird one.
My family was invited to a "party," really more of a dinner. I asked the hostess what I could bring, she said she didn't need anything. I'd normally bring a bottle of wine anyway, but since this was a "little kids included" party, I decided to make and bring a bundt cake.
The hostess seemed glad to get it and only had storebought cookies otherwise for dessert.
But then! She let me know about an hour after I got home that I "forgot my cake," and she would bring it to me the next morning. (Via email.) I didn't get the email until the following morning, was in and out, and didn't worry about it -- I don't *want* the cake back, it was supposed to be for them. But she called twice that morning and (I think) tried to stop by, too.
Am I crazy? Isn't it poor etiquette to try to return a dessert someone brought to you? I'm just baffled by this, and don't quite know how to take it.