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do yu "drink" at work??

Yeah, I drink tons of water. I get it from the cooler so all of my refills are cool, but I'll drink it at whatever temp. If you like ice, more power to you-do whatever you need to do to stay hydrated! But there is literally nothing that will make me gag to see someone else drink.

Jun 18, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

Sprout's Farmers Market

They have a few bulk items that I really like-veggie chips are delicious, my husband likes the butter toffee peanuts, they have a much bigger variety of whole grains than most of the big box stores. They're also more likely to have slightly obscure produce like endive and escarole than the other stores in my area (although no one including Sprouts seems to carry radicchio anymore-I know I've bought it in the past but it's not to be found anymore). They have good sales on things like bell peppers a couple of times a year.

Jun 16, 2014
ErnieD in Chains

Anyone else disgusted with dogs in restaurants?

Clearly a killer! What a nice pic. My dog gets only unadulterated protein but even that fairly rare occurrence is enough to instigate intense stares whenever anyone eats. My husband refers to her and the two cats as "the triangle of begging" because they always align themselves in the hopes that this will be the one day out of 20 that they get something.

May 21, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Home Cooking and Marital Discord

That's perfectly fine. I was responding to the statements "men have always enjoyed cooking more than women, and most of the great cooks have been men" and "there are women who not only dislike cooking, but actually resent it," neither of which were made by you.

"Get in the kitchen and make me sandwich" directed at women by men as literally become a meme, and there are plenty of men (albeit a decreasing number as time passes) who think cooking is women's work and beneath them. It absurd to say that only women resent cooking. This obviously doesn't apply to your marriage, though.

May 12, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food

Home Cooking and Marital Discord

There are women who resent cooking because they deal with it as an expectation, whether they enjoy it or not. Men who cook, even it it is just grilling steak, are lauded, while women who cook are treated as though it is expected. Men who don't cook are perfectly normal, but women who don't cook are failing as caregivers. As fldkybnva stated, there are social/cultural reasons why most great cooks are men. Restating that most great chefs are men doesn't really address this.

And family meal time is only really "important psychologically" if it's working for everyone. If you're able to put a meal on the table at a time that is functional for you family to converse and bond, it's awesome. If mom is pissed and the kids are frustrated because they're starving, no amount of cooked-from-scratch or shopped-for-it-today is going to make that meal a pleasant or nurturing experience.

May 12, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Posters who Police

Wait, do I recommend linguafood too often? AM I PART OF A POSSE?

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Site Talk

Home Cooking and Marital Discord

Ha, I'm super guilty of participating in that component of of the thread-thanks for being a good sport about it...

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Home Cooking and Marital Discord

They're contemporary cultural norms because we live in contemporary culture. The OP's wife does not have the privilege of not working outside the home. I'm not sure why it's all on her to accommodate, although it's nice that this worked well for you.

I love family meal times too, and they're often better at 6:30 when everyone is a little hungry and ready to chat than they are at 9 because you felt like making osso busco on a week night was important.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Home Cooking and Marital Discord

Will it change anything about your life if someone else has experienced the same? Currently 50% of the adults in your house are not happy with how the meal situation is going. Any way you cut it, that's not really great news.

FWIW I'm by no means an advocate of a 50/50 division of food labor unless that works for you. I like cooking and therefore do 99% of it, and after watching my parents argue for 45 years about how my dad does the dishes wrong, I really prefer to clean up too. My husband likes anything that plugs in, so he pretty much deals with all electronics, vacuuming, etc., and the stuff that neither of us enjoys we divvy up. But if your wife is unhappy with the current regime, wouldn't it be best to figure out how to address that?

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Is a hot dog a sandwich?

No.

:)

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

The Rent err…..Groceries are Too Damn High!

But apparently humorous to a certain subset of the population.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

The Rent err…..Groceries are Too Damn High!

Not so much. I have a cousin with a disability that's not always immediately noticeable. She also has chronic pain that worsens with cold weather so occasionally she'll limp a little outside but not when she gets in to the heat. People who use placards that don't apply to them are jerks and I hope they all step on Legos, but it's not the business of random strangers to stop people and demand their health history.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics
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The Rent err…..Groceries are Too Damn High!

Not really. Full loss of sensation below a certain point. She was a lot nicer about sharing that particular detail with a roomful of people than I would have been.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

At the end of my rope -- please help

This is interesting about getting your senses involved. I like listening to audiobooks and I went through a brief phase where I thought I would listen to them on my MP3 player while I cooked but I started burning everything. Turns out that I tell things are done cooking partly by the sound they're making. Now I stream Netflix instead-I'm okay as long as I don't have earbuds in.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Home Cooking
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At the end of my rope -- please help

So true! I like that you mention finding the method that works for you. I'm not a letter-of-the-law recipe follower but my mom is and so are some people on here and I think that's great. Anything that lets you produce food you are happy with and doesn't make you feel bitter, anxious, or resentful is fantastic to me, and if what works for you doesn't work for everyone it's no big deal.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Home Cooking

At the end of my rope -- please help

I don't necessarily think your love for your husband was being criticized (and most people didn't even mention that componant). But he's not a king. He's a dude, albeit one you love. Just reading that made me feel stressed and pressured.

More on-topic, is your husband displeased with the meals five days a week? If not, is it possible you're getting a tasting fatigue thing going on? I love big cooking projects but often if I'm working on something for an hour or more, I've tasted it enough times that my appetite is reduced and the flavors are no longer novel or exciting.

And I strongly second the idea to build on what you know. You know how to make risotto, which means you know how to make risotto with something stirred in at the end. Tomato-basil, lemon-chive, blue cheese, whatever. And you don't always have to make the same menu. Risotto can be a side, but make a salad and a roasted veg or bread, and now you have a significantly different but still complete meal. It doesn't have to be basic, but learning the simpler stuff first is really good. Very few things (for me) are more satisfying then a really well-cooked steak, nicely roasted chicken, or most roasted vegetables. You can learn these pretty quickly because there are only a few variables-salt, cooking time, and cooking temp if you're going for the least complicated option. Once you're happy with those, you can start adding spices, and then gravy/aioli/vinegar/pesto/vinaigrette.

If you know how to make hollandaise you know the only tricky part of eggs Benedict, which makes a great dinner. Once you feel comfortable with that, you're really close to having smoked salmon eggs Benedict. You can probably learn to steam or roast asparagus (you really just need to manipulate the cook time there) and then you have another perfect meal.

May 09, 2014
ErnieD in Home Cooking
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The Rent err…..Groceries are Too Damn High!

True. That's something I used to think should change-at first glance it just seems like requiring it would cut down on fraud. But as time passed, I got to the point where I'd rather someone, somewhere get an illicit chihuahua into the Quizno's than have people who use the dogs to navigate the world independently get stopped and carded everywhere they go. It's already kind a pain I think-there's a patient at my rehab facility who uses a service dog and the number and intrusiveness of the questions she gets asked is astonishing. I once heard someone forty years younger than her ask her a string of questions about what the dog does for her and the details of her injury, and then top it off by asking if she's still able to "enjoy sex".

May 08, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

The Rent err…..Groceries are Too Damn High!

So...how do you to determine whether they are "deserving" of their placards? Please tell me you're not demanding that they tell you what type of disability they have. By all means call the police if you want but demanding that random citizens tell you their health status isn't really appropriate.

May 08, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics
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Home Cooking and Marital Discord

Yikes. If your wife doesn't want any one-on-one time with you (sexual or otherwise, no assumptions being made there) it's extremely unlikely that cooking is your primary problem.

That brig said, there are plenty of interesting meals from a wide variety of cultures that are pretty quick. I'm sure there are lots of quick meal books at the library as well as online. Then you could save the more labor-intensive meals for the weekends or maybe do some advance prep as LindaWhit suggests.

May 08, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food

Pizza delivery charge

What?? Stay-at-home-moms are a minority (most reports I've read say 27-29% of women with kids) and many women go back to work as their kids get older. The vast majority of women in their 40s have not been "out of the workforce for decades" and those that do parent from home would tend to do at least some of the shopping for the family so they're perfectly aware of money and inflation. Also, kids are kids for 18 years; tipping culture has not changed appreciably in the last 18 years. If women and minorities tip you less, I would think really hard about the treatment they have received from yourself and others who provide services for them.

May 08, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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my friends have no social sense at all

The meatballs sound amazing! And the best wine is always a win. I have a potluck book club meeting on Saturday after I will be away from home for 8 hours, so I'm hoping to be the person who brings decent wine instead of the person who sucks too hard to bring a homemade dish:)

(I'm also hoping to finish 340 of the 350 pages of the book by then, but that's a whole nother story).

May 07, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food

my friends have no social sense at all

Meh, it's weird but not tragic. Potlucks are almost always weird in my experience; it's kind of why I like them. When else can you legitimately have pasta salad, rice, buffalo wings, home fries, and brownies on the same plate?

I'm not trying to minimize your feelings at all. Bringing turkey is not a choice I would make. But once you make it potluck, you're guaranteed to have sort of a random assortment of dishes. You may wind up grateful for the extra protein when That One Person shows up with a small bag of chips or a pint of deli potato salad.

May 07, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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The dog ate my homework, chowhound version

Not necessarily umami but salty and weird-my car likes to chew peanut shells and eat popcorn. If you have popcorn in your hand, she'll walk right up and divest you of it. My dog likes almost everything but particularly enjoys kale.

May 01, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Posters who Police

I prefer to let my freak flag fly...

May 01, 2014
ErnieD in Site Talk
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Rudest grocery checker remark

Please tell me he's not one of the ones who's writing My Little Pony porn. I'm all for abolishing conscribed gender roles but those dudes freak me right out.

May 01, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food

Rudest grocery checker remark

I had someone say something similar to me when I was 26! She told me I didn't look a bit of it and said "it's all in the attitude" as though I were really struggling with the aging process and she needed to comfort me.

May 01, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food

When only SALT will do?

Kale chips with lots of smoked salt are amazing. I also like popcorn with EVOO, kosher salt/garlic salt and some kind of Italian seasoning (recently I've been using Penzey's frozen pizza seasoning because I got two freebie bottles of it). If I just want an instantaneous salt fix, peanuts with shells. I only eat those at home because I like to suck the shells for the salty flavor before I eat the nuts, and it's not a process anyone else really needs to watch.

Apr 29, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

Infographic: How to Tip Waiter, Barternder, Barista and Deliveryman and Not Be Mean

Interesting question. I don't feel much obligation to tip for something I didn't ask for and probably don't want. It might be different in a venue that was specifically music-oriented.

Apr 14, 2014
ErnieD in Not About Food
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Packaged Mixes, Sauces, Spices & Boxed Items You Use

Salsa-I make my own too but we do go through it like it's going out of style.

Penzey's Creamy Peppercorn and Sanwich Sprinkle.

Chicken broth-Swanson's Natural Goodness reduced sodium, one of my few hard brand loyalties.

Pretty much all condiments; ketchup, mustard, mayo, housin, sriracha, etc.

Apr 13, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics

Is a hot dog a sandwich?

It may be sloppy but it's exactly how language works. It's very reliant on historical and cultural context. Any time I hear someone start an argument with "well, the DICTIONARY definition says..." I pretty much know to expect little from it because a definition can't cover decades or centuries of use in a living language. A hot dog isn't a sandwich because it's a hot dog-because hot dog carts don't sell other sandwiches, Subway and Quozno's don't sell them, they're usually in a different section of the menu, and because if I visit a friend and they ask if I'd like a sandwich they never hand me a hot dog.

Apr 13, 2014
ErnieD in General Topics