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Sep 12, 2014
trolley in Mountain States

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

well we have to live in the real world and there's a lot of hand wipes. now that he's not 2 and isn't a spastic toddler it's easier bc he's not putting random things in his mouth or licking the pole at the playground. but can it still be tricky. they say teen years are almost worse. he is now aware of his situation unlike when he was 2 just wobbling around. so he's learned to vet all his foods and he can read every nut word and it's derivatives. he checks ingredients on his own as well. he's had several reactions. one that landed him in the hospital, ambulance and all. doc thinks it was either cross contamination from the food at whole foods or the shopping cart. most likely from the food.

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

yes, but no dairy, full stop. remember? ;)

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

yeah, there will never be a day where my son will just say f*ck it and eat that peanut butter cake you made unless he wanted to epi pen himself and then call 911. allergy people are serious. they don't whine either. they just want to blend in. i know my son does very badly :(

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

i know about the girl who died from the chinese food. And Natalie Giorgi who died from putting a PB rice krispie treat in her mouth. I do think in both cases the epinephrine wasn't administered on time. not that it's anyone's fault. yes, I don't bother asking for big events for my son. we even went to a dinner of my neighbors (the same people coming over!) and brought his own food. but kids eating a bento box at a food centered event is more acceptable than an adult. I just thought I would say something to the host as they shouldn't even bother to order a meal. but i think all this is moot bc the OP hasn't returned to this slightly troll-ish (i almost said trolley!!) post. don't even get me started on people who are "allergic". take that FOOD BABE character. She fakes food allergy to avoid harmful GMO's fats at restaurants. Oh, cry me a river!

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

where? my child was just about 2.5 and we were at a very small park across the street from our apt. basically an empty park and pretty small. him and a couple of kids showed up and I kid you not, dad had a tray of PB&J's. the kids played AND ate at the same time smearing their PB everywhere. First, as a parent, i think eating AND playing is just bad form, allergies or not. At first, I just asked for them to eat at the picnic area. it fell on deaf ears so I asked dear dad if the kids could wipe their hands afterwards with the wipes that I had in my diaper bag. then he went ballistic on me. of course, I left. He was very angry and i'm a small women. the kids were ass*ole too. didn't need to subject me or my then toddler to that kind of BS.

And I don't expect the world to stop. my son attends a school where everyone and their siblings eat a PB&J for lunch. But the school takes care of him and the other allergy kids very well. we have playdates with friends who bring PB sandwiches. we wipe them down after lunch. it's really that easy and simple. I don't ask for much accommodations. we don't go to a thai restaurant and ask for a nut free meal and then get angry that they can't help us ;) lets be real now. But I don't think the OP is allergic either. most allergic adults I've met will state that they're allergic to said allergen and make it very clear. not I stopped eating broccoli full stop.

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

i was once told by angry parent that my nut allergic child had no rights to be in public and we should just stay at home. people get very worked up when there are food restrictions. i'm inviting a neighbor over for dinner. kid has no allergies but eats barely anything. I'm happy to accommodate him as I invited them over. They didn't ask to be invited. but as I said, this may be a regional/generational difference. i find most older people are not open to food restrictions. I always get "when I was a kid we ate what we were given!"

i'm officially done with the OP as it seems more of a troll post since s/he hasn't been back. so shame on them for that!

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

you are my prisoners! you will eat what i've ordered you to eat! This is MY party not yours!! sheesh! And perhaps this is where CH shows it's regional and generational differences?

Sep 08, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Do I really need a Vitamix or Blendtec?

no, agreed. totally a different league. it's like the difference between the college football.

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Cookware

Do I really need a Vitamix or Blendtec?

oh I see!!

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Cookware

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

i was done with this thread as the OP is clearly done as well but totally agree with cronker. just give me ring and say "hey, i'm going to be eating some bird seed in the car so don't bother ordering me a meal". as we all agreed even small back yard weddings aren't necessarily cheap. the cheapest one i went to was in someone's backyard and pizza was ordered. i've been to a wedding with a raw bar, full band, fancy champagne in a ritz carlton (now it's a langham) hotel ballroom. bottom line: they all cost extra money. If you're all concerned about etiquette it should be being respectful for those shelling out money.

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Do I really need a Vitamix or Blendtec?

what? you can't take the container off the base with a vitamix??

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Cookware

Do I really need a Vitamix or Blendtec?

is mine "older" or are just referring to vitamixes?

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Cookware

Do I really need a Vitamix or Blendtec?

We've had a blendtec since 2009. we don't use it every day but we almost used it every day the first 2 yrs. we now use it at least once a week and still works like the first day. The reason why we chose Blendtec is at the time the BPA- free canister was only available by Blendtec. Now Both I believe are BPA- free.

I make kale smoothies. when we first bought it we made a ton of soaked cashew creams. The nut butters were difficult. Tried to make almond butter. I gave up on that then the child was diagnosed with a nut allergy so we put a kibosh on all that. The smoothies are good. They have the same texture as the ones from Jamba juice. and the margaritas are great! the ice gets that slushy texture that I've never been able to achieve with a regular blender. I also like to blend tomatoes, soups etc. so much easier than getting to food processor out. It's easy to clean. no parts to really take apart each time. Now as for ice cream, i've never gotten "ice cream" more like a thick milkshake. I leave the ice cream making for my ice cream maker. I felt at the time of purchase both Blendtec and Vitamix were equally good. I know some people don't like the Vitamix knobs. we got ours at Costco. While nobody really "needs" a blender, they will definitely enhance your life!

Sep 07, 2014
trolley in Cookware

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

grab a CHEESEburger?? ;)

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

mentioned the cost per person thing to my husband and he said HA! you wish it was $60/per person! it was more like $100. it included a ton but it wasn't cheap. as I mentioned 2 no shows, at my wedding. I would have much rathered donated $200 to a charity than have entrees gone to waste. we brought home a bunch of leftovers but still. why didn't they just tell me in advance? i'd feel the same way if they showed up with no intentions of eating. exactly, cancel and go do something else!

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

yeah skip the wedding!

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

i don't see much of a difference. maybe the OP can just be honest with the hosts? I call Chuck E Cheese to confirm that the cake is infact made on shared lines with peanuts and may contain peanuts. At that point I don't demand Chuck e. to source me a cake made in a nut free facility. I make the decision to bring our own cupcake and notify the host so it doesn't seem rude to not eat what they're offered. Where I come from it's rude not to eat what is offered.

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

caterers work in food and I would be surprised if they don't deal with these types of questions often. no you're not paying but it's better to know that everything is off limits. I'm not suggesting they alter the menu. i'm suggesting that s/he should find out what's in for store so food can be planned accordingly. i would find it more rude to allow the wedding party to order food for me and not plan to eat any of it. i'd rather know before shelling out possibly $100+ i had two no shows at my wedding. the cost for each guest was with the food/wine which wasn't cheap. i was pissed. but each to his/her own. clearly, some people are ok with that.

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

I don't think people were suggesting contacting the caterer to make arrangements. At least I was not. I think you can contact the caterer and ask if anything is safe for the OP to eat, then take it from there. s/he may be in for a surprise (yes, it's grilled fish and rice!) or a let down ( we dip everything in milk then coat it with flour, even salad!).

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food
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Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

while I totally agree with the "it's not your day so deal with it" I'd also be equally annoyed if a guest came and didn't plan on eating. Buffets are more forgiving but at my wedding (i don't remember how much it was exactly) I paid per person and it wasn't cheap. I thought $60/per person but husband thought it was more $80. Its a tricky one.

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

very true cronker. very good point. at my wedding it was something like $60/per person. it could have been even more. this included non-alcoholic drinks, champagne, hors d'oeuvres, dessert (petit fours and chocolates). didn't include wedding cake or other alcohol. I had to give them an exact head count as well. i'd probably be annoyed.

how about this. due to dietary restrictions please don't order a meal for moi. thanks! i'm sure at that point, if one of my guests wrote that on the RSVP, I would contact the invited person and get something arranged.

But hey, that's me. when I invite people to my house or an event, I want them to all feel welcome and happy.

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

I see your point nothingswrong. but i feel like people have been slightly mean about it to the OP. I didn't read it as entitled at all. she said, she was nervous and not sure how to approach it. thought eating her own food was rude. entitled would be- "how dare they not ask about dietary restrictions!"
It was just a question posed to a bunch of strangers on a message board.

You're right, my son is 5 and I can't expect him to call a restaurant or a food company or drive a car to school. I have to advocate for him. I do call every public restaurant to make sure we can eat there. even when i've called before hand, we have been kicked out of restaurants bc they can't cater to my peanut allergic child.

I personally think that a call to the caterer is not rude. we call every restaurant before eating out. Its rude just to show up and expect to be served IMO. However, it would be entitled and rude to ask the wedding hosts to make that call. As i stated in my first post to the OP, it's not your wedding so eat some food before hand and deal with it. Bring a snack. eat a nice big sandwich (of course on GF bread, canyon bakehouse is good) before hand. it's a few hours and it's not forever. So i'm on your side! But it's the snippy replies is what I don't agree with.

We have gone to "food" events and parties with my child. Nothing formal as a wedding but I have brought our own food or eaten before hand bc the event is too big or too much to ask about the food. It's just that I think a 5 year old eating out of a bento box at an event is more acceptable than an adult. and I agree with the OP that a wedding may not be the right venue to whip out your own baggie full of food. most likely, there will be something there to eat.

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food
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Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

i'm kidding. see, grumpy. right here. you. yes. and maybe it's every thread i click on but there seems to be more fighting and calling people names than heated debates that I used to see. and here i am labeling you as "grumpy". it's not self centered to contact a caterer so see what ingredients they're using. I do it so i'm not asking the hosts to do something for me. We went to a birthday party at Chuck e Cheese. I contacted Chuck e and asked about their ingredients in the cake after looking at their website. then i was able to decided whether it was safe for my son to eat the cake or not. it's just a part of our life and if you ever develop a food allergy (which I did in my 30's) or intolerance, you should do the same.

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food
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Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

you sound grumpy Bellachefa ;)

Sep 05, 2014
trolley in Not About Food
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Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

I don't think it's self entitlement. It's just the reality of someone who can't eat everything otherwise deal with health consequences. I know with my son, he's gone into anaphylaxis from trace amount of his allergens. At least the question was asked on how to handle the situation. dealing with food issues is tricky and uncomfortable. Having food intolerances/allergies is far from entitlement. It's restrictive and scary for those having to navigate thru a world that is full of landmines. There are those who are "gluten free" and can be seen munching on a piece of toast or like that Food Babe character who think it's ok to lie and say you suffer from food allergies just so restaurants don't douse your food with those harmful GMO's! They do ruin it for the rest of us who actually can land in the hospital from merely eating which has happened to both me and my son.
Entitled is a vegan who demands everything to be animal free. Being a vegetarian or a vegan is choice while most food intolerances/allergies are not a choice. Or someone who complains that the food at a wedding wasn't good enough or the wine was not up their standard. Trust me, if my son could eat nuts we'd be planning a trip to Thailand.

Why is everyone seem so angry on CH these days? I've stayed away from posting as often (except for the Trader Joe's posts) bc people seem so grumpy around here.

Can Good Gut Bacteria Protect Against Food Allergies?

I agree it's a huge step and I do hope it's that simple. but in my armchair mom theory (which I admit is as credible as the autism-vaccine connection) is that genetics is a part of it. my mom is severely allergic to shellfish. I come with seasonal allergies as well as all cats and dog. oh and I developed an anaphylactic response to peaches in my 30's so they're off limits now. i'm not surprised my kid has allergies too.

Sep 04, 2014
trolley in Special Diets

Can Good Gut Bacteria Protect Against Food Allergies?

I asked about the "hygiene hypothesis" to our old allergist who was one of the lead researchers at National Jewish Health. He gave me this "are you f'in kidding me lady?" As he mentioned it was a good start in identifying the issues revolving around food allergies and asthma, it was not the solution and it was and is a school of thought not to be completely dismissed but not all subscribe to it. even the professionals. This was back in 2011-12. They have evolved now to the gut microbe.

Its just not that simple and we allergy people wish it was. My son is 6 and has had antibiotics 3 times in his life for ear infections. They were all taken way after his allergy diagnosis. I've owned a total of maybe 3 small bottles of hand sanitizer since his birth. He also doesn't have asthma. The cleanliness holds as much water as the vaccine autism connection as my friend (who is also an MD-pediatric researcher) has mentioned in jest but I'm pretty sure she's serious too.

Sep 04, 2014
trolley in Special Diets

Wheat/Dairy Free Wedding Guest Ettiquette

my son has severe allergies to peanuts and some tree nuts. when we go to birthday parties, i email the parents ahead of time indicating our allergy and that we will be bringing our own cake and food and that I hope they don't mind as it's easier for everyone...however, that's a kids b-day party...not a wedding. I think eat a lot before hand. bring some snacks with you. i've had my own wedding and it's not cheap or easy like a 5 year old birthday party. which in comparison is easy peasy to a wedding. it's their day, and when it's your wedding make it GF/DF!

How come my tuna fish never tastes as good as sandwich shops?

well, I would make a vinaigrette to toss it with. of course, you can omit the oil part. i was thinking, mustard, apple cider vinegar, honey...

Sep 02, 2014
trolley in General Topics