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Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

I stand by that. I think that in addition to "thanks" most gift givers would like something more to indicate that the recipient actually likes it. Maybe I'm overstating it, but when I give a gift, I've put some thought into it and hope that the recipient is excited about the gift. To me, that's why a thank you note includes more than just "thank you" - gift givers want to know something "personalized" about what the recipient liked about the gift and how she plans to use it (or has enjoyed it).

about 3 hours ago
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

Glad it all worked out.

about 4 hours ago
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

Wow. Your right to do with them what you will! No matter what you do with it, no one is allowed to take offense! I could take the napkins, throw them in the garbage can in front of R and she better not take offense! I mean, they are freaking cocktail napkins and it is my right, plain and simple!

about 4 hours ago
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

They were left out with no explanation about why they were there and they were left in the wrapper so no one would use them. It sounds like most of the posters here would find it extremely rude to tell any other attendee that R brought the napkins because they might feel that their gift was inadequate or that they should have brought a gift...so apparently they were left out as some sort of secret acknowledgement?

about 4 hours ago
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

See, e.g. Japan.

about 4 hours ago
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

Fawning is your word, not mine. Acknowledgement doesn't seem out of line to me. But to each his own.

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

In some cultures, it has *never* been enough.

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

Agreed to a point. If I took a gift that I thought the host would just love and it was met with a lukewarm response, I'd probably be a little confused and embarrassed. Wouldn't be a tantrum, but it might not put me in the most social mood if I thought that the host wasn't happy with me due to my faux pas gift. Dunno. Sounds like something else is going on with R.

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

When one writes a thank you note, it doesn't just say "thank you," does it? It includes some kind of complimentary description of the gift and some kind of plans for its use (e.g. Thank you for the lovely turkey napkins. I cannot wait to display them on my Thanksgiving table!). That's all I am advocating.

If the host does put them out for use at the party, I would acknowledge that the gift-giver contributed them and I don't think anyone's going to feel uncomfortable if I say that R generously brought these adorable turkey napkins that are just too cute not to use tonight. BFD.

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food
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Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

Perhaps in your experience, but that's not universal. Haven't you ever been to a dinner party where the host served a special bottle of wine that someone at the party brought from their cellar as a treat? Did it seem like "fawning" over the wine-bringer to mention how lovely it was for them to bring it and what a treat it was? Pretty standard where I'm from.

I hardly wrote that a host needs to prostrate oneself to the gift-giver...It is, however, very telling that you call demonstrating gratitude "drama."

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

It's all cultural, I guess. Where I grew up, gift giving is important, and there is a ritual involved in acknowledging the gift, etc. If the recipient isn't very enthusiastic about the gift (e.g. "Thanks" followed by placing gift in a drawer), that would be seen as a slight. Perhaps keep an open mind that others may be used to/expecting a different sort of acknowledgement of their gift?

Anyway, I'd probably only say anything to the other guests if I did put them out - I would want the giver to feel acknowledged for his/her contribution. BFD.

Aug 29, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Why oh why did you not use my host(ess) gift at your dinner party?

It may not have been that you didn't use them that caused "confusion" or "offense," but simply the lack of demonstrative appreciation? While I agree that you're not under any "obligation" to use them at the party, most people giving a gift want more than a "thanks" while you whisk them out of sight into a drawer somewhere. I'd either just put some of them out and made at least one comment to another guest (in front of R) that R brought these cute turkey napkins, or said something to the effect that the napkins are so cute and will be perfect for T-giving and how thoughtful R is, etc. You have to kind of make a big deal about it and either say it's so great you have to share it now (at the party) or it's so great you have to keep it for yourself.

Aug 28, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Billing issue... what would you do?

I'd tell the mgr that I am disappointed in how it was handled. You made a point to have the server confirm the total and discount before you paid, and tipped accordingly given how generous the discount was. When they discovered the mistake, they should have just sucked it up. If they just couldn't live with giving the extra comp, they should have contacted you and apologetically explained the mistake. But in no event were they authorized to change the amount of the credit card charge after the fact. That is theft and fraud and should never happen again.

If I liked the place, I'd leave it at that. Hopefully the mgr would apologize for the error and off to reverse it or make it up to you some other eay.

If I was so-so on the place I'd tell the mgr that I will give them the opportunity to reverse the additional credit card charge, or if they won't do that, I'd let them know that I'll be disputing the charge with my cc company, but then I wouldn't eat there again.

Aug 24, 2014
akq in Not About Food

Day Long Snacking Report

Wow, what a day. Sounds like the only thing that stood out in a good way was the first pastry. Too bad, but hopefully you had fun!

Aug 15, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Summer veggie dish for a crowd?

+1 on the green beans. I do garlicky green beans - lightly steam green beans and toss with melted garlic butter/olive oil. Crowd pleaser. Pesto sounds like a winner, too.

Aug 15, 2014
akq in Home Cooking

Ballard/Fremont/Phinney/Greenwood Searching for Not So Darn Sweet Thai Food

I'll have to try them again and report back. My memory was that several noodle dishes, a stir-fry (probably cashew chicken) and a red curry were all extremely sweet.

Aug 14, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Ballard/Fremont/Phinney/Greenwood Searching for Not So Darn Sweet Thai Food

Thai Siam is very close to home & they are very nice, but I've always struck out there with the level of sweetness. We did have the Tom Kha and it was quite good, so I agree there, but what else do you recommend there? Would love to give it another try.

Aug 12, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Katsu Burger closed yesterday

SAD! We were just talking about going there last week but didn't...missed out! The nori fries and delicious katsu will be missed.

Aug 12, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Thnking about a rice cooker -- is induction worth it?

worth it. Love my zoji. when I used to eat rice all the time, I'd put the rice & water in the cooker before work and set the timer so I'd have perfect rice at dinner time. Awesome. I like the texture of brown rice better when it soaks all day and/or when you use the GABA setting.

The benefit of induction is even cooking. The old rice cookers heat at the bottom which can burn or dry out the bottom layer. That severely limits the time you can use the old cookers to keep the rice warm. But with the induction zojis you can use the keep warm function for several days (I don't do it, but for a day it's been just fine) without burning the bottom.

Aug 08, 2014
akq in Cookware

Seattle Biscuit Bender

Morsel? Sampled the Spanish Fly & fast break this Sat. @ Ballard location. Both were awesome! If the wait hadn't been so long we would have split a third.

Jul 20, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

One Day in Victoria (Cruise Docked)

We were just in Victoria and really enjoyed halibut & chips. The best was from red fish blue fish on the dock in front of the Empress. Be prepared for a wait.

Jul 10, 2014
akq in B.C. (inc. Vancouver)

Good food in Pioneer Square for a group

For Dim Sum with cocktails, consider O'Asian. It's in an office tower downtown (5th & Columbia) with free parking on the weekends. They serve decent dim sum, and have a bar. They have a couple of private rooms, larger tables and a lounge area they sometimes use for larger parties.

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

5 Days in Seattle in July/August

There are some decent/good waterfront choices at the north end. I've had good meals at Six Seven, which is in the Edgewater, and I've heard good things about the restaurant in the Marriott as well. I used to love the Waterfront Seafood Grill, but haven't been there since they re-branded as Aqua. Anthony's can be good but not particularly inventive.

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

2 Day trip in Seattle (July 11-12)

I'll probably get flamed for this, but I love the happy hour at the capital grill and my three favs there are the tenderloin sandwiches, fried calamari and the mini lobster rolls. Lobster rolls aren't easy to come by here, unfortunately.

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Solo eats in Ballard?

So many to choose from! It really depends what you're looking for...if you like Thai, check out Pestle Rock. For a yummy bite outside, try the Shilshole location of Paseo. Stop in for a pizza at Delancy. Cafe Munir, suggested by Kaleokahu, is also a fav.

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Bakery near Safeco?

Don't forget a Seattle classic: Borracchini's. http://nowcake.com/

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

1st time in Seattle, need (mostly restaurant) suggestions that are in walking/easy public transit distance from our hotel

You're staying in the heart of downtown, which gives you easy access to downtown, capitol hill, south lake union (SLU), pioneer square, the international district, belltown and queen anne by either walking or taking short transit rides. So you can understand how large a request you sent out. Slightly farther afield would include Ballard, Fremont, Wallingford, the University District, West Seattle, georgetown, Columbia City, all of which would be about 20-30 mins by bus (different buses) or light rail.

On Bainbridge, I highly recommend Mora ice cream and Hitchcock (and their adjacent deli). Both are walking distance from the ferry terminal in the cute town of Winslow.

Jul 09, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Brunch/Lunch in North Seattle for Large Group

They have two areas that are separated from the main dining room, but not totally shut off in another room. Seemed to work fine but depends on what you're after.

Jul 02, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle

Cabbage Preparations That Kids Like

Thinly slice the cabbage and make sure it's dry, then slowly cook in some butter or bacon grease until it gets soft and a little browned. S&P to taste. Very sweet and yummy.

Or maybe try a Mexican slaw? Basically pico de gallo with cabbage cut for coleslaw (with or without tomatoes). Let it sit for a while and it gets really good.

Jul 02, 2014
akq in Home Cooking
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Brunch/Lunch in North Seattle for Large Group

What exactly are you looking for? I've been to a baby shower lunch at Tutta Bella in Wallingford that was nice.

Jul 02, 2014
akq in Greater Seattle