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I never said it was the end of the world Hobbert. I'm just replying to posts and sharing my thoughts. My "friend won't be invited to my place again for dinner. Think your contradicting yourself when you say you hate mushrooms and fennel but you picked off the mushrooms on the pizza ate abit of the fennel and made do with the rest. You didn't insult your host by letting them know you hated those food items. I had started cooking and I also had rice and roasted pumpkin plus a parsley relish as well as custard to go with dessert. She could have made do....

Jul 29, 2013
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You wouldn't let the host order Pizza if your child didn't like what they were served and they are still learning, so why would anyone think it's acceptable for an adult to do so?
People forget that being invited into someone's home is all about sharing their food and not ordering what you like as in a restaurant!!!!

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They are my thoughts exactly! I'm lucky in that I eat most things. I have dislikes like everyone else eg bacon, ham and I'm not a big fan of eggs either but they are not soooo bad that I wouldn't be able to stomach them, they are just foods that I would never opt for myself. Really think that too many adults act like absolute babies! Truth is that if you eat a food 7 times you will develop the taste buds for it and if you not very experimental with food and have such strict preferences then speak up or stay home!!!

Jul 29, 2013
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Thanks lovely, and yes she is fine thankfully :)

Jul 25, 2013
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True & she has been a beautiful friend up until this point. I've never seen her behave so badly!!! I guess I'm having such a hard time stomaching what happened because I would never behave the way she did, with anyone! Being difficult not just with one thing but 3 things on the menu!!! Furthermore Another thing that I haven't mentioned up until this point because it's a side issue is that on the night my sister was involved in a car accident and I was getting quite anxious and stressed because I couldn't get in contact with her. My friend just laughed at me and then critised dessert asking why i use chemicals eg artificial sweetener instead of sugar....
I know if if the tables were turned I would have asked if she was ok and given her a hug. Really was just the icing on the cake for me. She really just was an A Grade pest that night. I really am not one to hang people for one silly mistake I just feel I'm making to many excuses for her so not sure I want to see her again.

Jul 24, 2013
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Lol, your a very polite person! My spelling and grammar in this thread has been horrific! Being quite emotional while replying to the comments, I haven't then checked over them to ensure they are coherent. Pretty embarrassed :/

Jul 23, 2013
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I would assume the same. I may be misinformed, I don't know I have never been to America but my sister who has says that while she loved her holiday in the US the diet was punishing. She said that she struggled to find healthy food options and that even the nicer food restaraunts that she went to offered mainly gourmet junk food. She was on budget so in no way am I saying she went to really nice restaraunts but that is the overall feel I got from her. Still find it odd how limited people's diets are when things like salmon are so readily available and sourced from local super markets and not from specialty shops.

Jul 23, 2013
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:)

Jul 23, 2013
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Such is the western diet that we have soooo many people who only know or appreciate plastic junk food over quality nutritional food! No wonder the western world has so many obese people waddling around!!

Jul 23, 2013
imogenvats in Not About Food

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Very true!! Im slowly learning to be more patient and assertive with people. I too have witnessed some pretty odd behavior still can't help but gasp. Went out with someone who doesn't eat any vegetables who sent his open plate yiros back because there was a tiny piece of capsicum on one of the pieces of meat. Go figure....

Jul 23, 2013
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:) Haha, thought that was the only thing that would give me away and yes I live in a very beautiful country, especially fortunate that we are a multicultural country and get to experience a variety of cuisines from all over the world :)

Jul 23, 2013
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As I stated above, I never said that she deliberately tried to hurt me, but she was recklessly indifferent to whether I was. I'm not taking it personally but offended that she thinks this is acceptable behavior. Hosts spend a little extra money when inviting guests over for dinner and having the expectation that they provide you with an unplanned alternative, foot the bill and make do with perishable items for another night to me is unacceptable.
I feel that my fiancé and I Responded politely to her rudeness and she took advantage of it. Take out wasn't our preference, it was for her benefit only!!!

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Yeah, that's completely inexcusable!!! Poor you!!! :(

Jul 23, 2013
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And I sincerely tried to answer your question. It's a tough one! What happend to you is horrible too! Where do people get off showing such a lack of respect for other people's purses and efforts???!!!
I think they would have to be pretty stupid to not realise that they offended or hurt you, it would hurt anyone!!! Think it probably boils down to the efforts they then make to make up for their bad behavior, whether or not it involves mentioning or even apologisong for what they did :/

Jul 23, 2013
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Lol, Didn't realise I stood out like a sore thumb :p

Jul 23, 2013
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Sorry about my grammar and typos!! I meant "didn't deliberately try to hurt me"

Jul 23, 2013
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Bobbert, whilst I agree with most of what you have said, I'm struggling to see how this is a minor issue.

Yes, you are right our friend did grow up in a meat, potatoe & three veg household and eats quite a bit of fast food so perhaps salmon is considered a little exotic in her world.

She is in her mid 40's however and should have more of a idea of proper etiquette when invited to dinner in someone's home.

I agree intent is extremely important, as you stated above and I agree she deliberately try to hurt me but she most certainly was recklessly indifferent to whether I was or not I was.

I've never seen her behave like this and that is why I have called her my friend...

Jul 23, 2013
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Your a clever cookie :p I'm an Aussie! What gave it away?

Jul 23, 2013
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The situation caused me great stress as I keep saying I would never let a host order take out because I simple didn't like the food they cooked. Perhaps it wrong to hold people to the same standards as our own. My finance after all did offer take out, and maybe she thought that made it acceptable. She also has invited us over to her place and gone to great lengths to prepare appetizing meals. I'm torn.... I'm not sure that I can invite her over though as in my opinion she behaved poorly the whole night. After all she the critised the stewed rhubarb and custard I made for dessert, asking why some bits of rhubarb were stringy and other were more firm. As well as why I used Splenda instead of sugar? I explained the recipie was from the CSRIO cookbook as my mother is diabetic I've been trying out diabetic recipies that the whole family can enjoy.
Really struggling to accept her behavior. Am I being to sensitive..... I don't think so....

Jul 22, 2013
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"moral" food preferences, as a guest

I agree, I think it's unreasonable to expect hosts to cater to this. I think that any good host will ask for any allergies or query likes and dislikes but I think it's rude for the guest to specify beyond "guidelines" for the host.

People invite their friends into their home to share their food. Guests should treat their friend's home as a home and not a restaurant.

Everyone has different budgets/morals/ ethics as well as differing quality food standards. The line needs to be drawn somewhere....!

Jul 22, 2013
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Absofuckingloutely!!! Thanks sunshine, my exact thoughts! To lunch maker "whatever came of making guests feel comfortable?"
Are you serious? We ended up getting her take out and paying for it!
Honestly if I ever pulled a stunt like this Id expect to get told to fuck off!!!
She could have nibbled on the sides and bought herself take out on the way home!

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We ended ordering indian.....

Jul 21, 2013
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Wow!! You deserve a medal for keeping your cool. I would have been on the verge of cracking up big time!!! Honestly it is beyond me how grown people can justify such rude behavior!!!! Sorry you had to endure what should have been a pleasant and fun evening with such an ass!!

Jul 21, 2013
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Well I was hardly going make a scene. Honestly my fiancé is a beautiful man and even though I can see how it can be interpreted that he undermined me by offering take out, I know he was only trying to smooth out a uncomfortable situation. Having slept on it, I really feel that my friend was rude and took advantage of our kindness. Yes nice people do try to accommodate their guests as best they can but I think it was extremely rude of her to accept the offer.
Salmon is not obscure fish.She should have specified she didn't like it when queried. As I stated earlier I would never imagine going to anyones for dinner and letting them scap the entire meal and get me take out because it wasn't to my liking. Totally disrespectful and insulting. Only excuse is if she had a allergy. If she really couldn't stomach it she could have sincerely apologised and had the sides. But to turn her nose to the sides as well! Seriously!!!!!

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I guess I probably shouldn't doubt myself so much.

Jul 21, 2013
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Thanks firegoat, don't see anything wrong with what you suggest you would have done in my shoes,in your comment above.
We all sometimes just doubt ourselves about overreacting...

Jul 21, 2013
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Of course it was a true offer, it was carried through. However for her benefit only. My fiancé and I were both looking forward to the salmon. She was a guest in our home and being a good host requires you to ensure that you guest is comfortable and happy....

Jul 21, 2013
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Yes, and I agree that you have every right to speak up and let the host know of any foods that you just can't stomach before the date but I also think it should be your tough luck if your cooked something your not particularly keen on if you have been asked and did not specify....
Cooking salmon pasta for someone who has said they aren't keen on it is insensitive but I think it's very different when you have never even tried it and you also turn up your nose to all the sides. I was pretty insulted and felt very disrespected for all the money I spent.... :/

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Haha, wish I had! :)

Jul 21, 2013
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Thats what I thought. If your fussy with fish and your asked whether you like fish, wouldn't you specify the ones your just not that keen on.....?

Jul 21, 2013
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