I honestly don't mind bringing the food. I told him prior to the bbq that I would bring over some food since my bf was coming along as well.
The reason that I brought that much food because he is known for being frugal. Last time lunch at his place was a grilled cheese/egg sandwich. Also, I am usually the one picks the tabs when we go out. His fridge had plenty of food, but nothing that was remotely for bbq related. This was my first time invited to a bbq at his place. When I am invited to someone's else place, I often bring a small gift for the hostess, but never food.
I have known him for over a year and I think he is a genuine a nice guy, but just too frugal sometimes (thus, still single in his 40's). Next time, I will just invite him over my place.
This is my first time posting, but I have been an occasional lurker in this forum. Last week, my friend suggested a bbq at his place. Our group consisted only four of us (including his female friend and my bf). I offered to bring some food since he was known for his frugality. He is someone who rather eats frozen/canned food for convenience's sake and prefers to spend his money on restoring his classical cars or flying (has a pilot license).
I bought chicken thighs, sausages, veggies, and strawberries. On the way to his place, I asked him if he wanted me to bring anything else? His reply was, "Don't worry, I have plenty of food at my place too." When we arrived at his place, we barbequed only with the food that I brought over. The only thing he offered was rice. Bf and I are non drinkers and thus we drank water at his place. Luckily, the food I brought was more than enough for 4 of us, otherwise I would be mortified.
Right after we got home, I received a text from him thanking me for the food and suggesting that we should do bbq often. My bf and I were quite perplexed. Was this a normal etiquette of hosting a BBQ?
Now every time I ask my bf if he wants me to bring food over his house, he reply would be, "Don't worry, I have plenty of food at my place too." lol