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Was it rude to assume I was invited?

Thank you all, for the valuable and meaningful feedback.
My spouse is not receiving an award at this event, - THAT would would be downright crazy, in my book, to not extend an invitation to a guest, in that case.
It's just a (rare) evening by this publisher (they never throw parties) to celebrate their writers.
The invitation came in to our (shared) email address, and we just made the assumption I was included.
We've learned, we're over it, we fortunately found out in advance, and will go directly to the later event from home.
And, will always double-check in the future!
One of the executives has already written a profound apology, that he's sorry i can't be there, and that we're not coming.
It seems they just didn't have the space to extend +1s, and have been getting a bit of flak from other attendees.
All my best,
Michele

Apr 16, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

I again, offer a "thank you" to all of these responses.

Yes, we've learned...this was just not our usual cuppa tea.

We've been around, and go to plenty of events, and host many parties ourselves.

We were just thrown by the exclusionary aspect of this situation, given everything I've already spelled out in my initial post and replies.

Will never RSVP again without questioning the full extent of the invitation.

Bottoms up!,

Michele

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

Thank you K-man,
Yes, much nuance is lost in e-comments/conversations.
Sensitive type that I am, I don't react well to terseness, when one is supposedly trying to help.
I've learned for the future to not presume a spouse is invited when not stipulated on the invite.
However, I still feel confident that this was a big-time mistake on the part of this publisher.
Alienating your top artist/income earners is not the smartest move.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

I find your response a bit rude, too.
My husband doesn't 'work' in this 'office', so there
s no "asking around."
He is an award-winning, established artist, who has several prominent titles represented by this publisher.
It is an evening in celebration of their writers, of whom he is one.
To invite a celebrated guest, and not allow him/her to bring a spouse/guest, seems like a truly stupid move to us on this company's part.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

Thanks for all of the replies.
Though we both feel this was a terrible error on the company's behalf, we'll be more careful in the future.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

Thank you for you kind and civilized reply.
Though many intend to be helpful here, I can't help but detect a hint of hostility in some of these replies.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

They're very much interested in one of my properties, and I'm very involved with them in three of my husband's titles, - so it was a real FAUX PAS in our book.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

Well, thank you Dulcie...I'm also a pretty well established artist in this field, so it seemed kinda kooky to us.
This situation was a first for me.
So, I decided to do some kind of reality check, and found ChowHound.
Glad to know of this site, now.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

The invitation was via email.
"In honor of our authors, etc."
I don't have the invite any longer, but it obviously must not have said "and guest"
He needs no help furthering his career there - he's actually one of their "big cheeses."
Thanks again for replying.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

He's not attending.
We were going there on our way to another event, so there it is.
Thanks again, all.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

My presumption had nothing to do with his social anxiety.

As I stated, this is not an office party or holiday party. It is a party in honor of the artists who are represented by this company - which include my husband.
I think it was a natural presumption on our part.

Anyway, thanks all, for the feedback.

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food

Was it rude to assume I was invited?

My husband was invited to a corporate cocktail party by the publisher of some of his works.
He RSVP'd, and we were planning to attend together.

We just found out, however, that no guests are invited, due to limited space.

Should they not have specified that on their invitation?

This isn't an 'office party'.

it's a party in honor of the writers who the company represents, of which my husband is one.

My husband is not the greatest network-er, and is only comfortable at these kind of events with me.

Was it wrong of us to assume that I could come?

Thanks so much for any feedback!

Apr 13, 2012
Michele212 in Not About Food