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Etiquette for "adults only" invitation and host's child(ren)

And in my case, the kids did get to be a bit intrusive with the present-opening, although not going as far as unwrapping gifts themselves. Also, neither child was in any way related to the expectant mom (honoree). The honoree didn't even know one of the children --that child was just a neighborhood friend of the host's child.

Oct 25, 2010
VickySF in Not About Food

Etiquette for "adults only" invitation and host's child(ren)

Thanks for all the responses, everyone! I guess I should clarify that this was a baby shower for the much beloved teacher of my son and the host's child (but not the other little girl that was there --she doesn't even go to the same school), so there was a more personal element to it for me and my son. This teacher is like family to us, so I guess that's where the feeling slighted part comes in. This was not a situation of a baby shower for the mom of one of the kids that was present. And the teacher is not in any way related to the host or her family.

When I was a kid, my parents did the same as what a lot of you have mentioned --we young'uns had to stay out of sight during parties. I guess that's why I was a bit surprised to see these two little girls. Anyway, I'll most likely go with a babysitter for my own party, for my sanity as much as for my guests!

Oct 25, 2010
VickySF in Not About Food

Etiquette for "adults only" invitation and host's child(ren)

Thanks for your response, but my question is not about bringing my own child to a party designated as "Adults only". I would never dream of doing that. If you re-read my post, you'll see I am asking about what is the proper etiquette of somebody with their own children who is hosting a party deemed "Adults only".

Kater -Your suggestion for me to hire a babysitter for my child at my party is basically what I was thinking, as much for my own sanity as for my guests'! I guess I was just considering that, well, if these other friends could "get away with" having their child attend their "Adults only" party, maybe I could do the same thing merely to save on expenses. Plus it just didn't seem quite fair for them to do that. Maybe I'm just behind the times.....

Oct 24, 2010
VickySF in Not About Food

Etiquette for "adults only" invitation and host's child(ren)

What is the etiquette surrounding an “adults only” invitation to a party and attendance of the host’s child(ren)? I recently attended a baby shower for which the invitation specifically stated “adults only”. When I arrived, I was surprised to find not only the host’s five-year-old daughter in attendance but also a friend of hers. Is that the accepted thing these days? To exclude your guests’ children but include your own plus a friend? It wasn’t a huge deal because it was only a baby shower, but I have to admit, I was looking forward to a few child-free hours with friends, plus it felt very exclusive to me. Additionally, I’m planning to have my own “adults only” party soon and am wondering what to do about my own young child. (We don’t have any close relatives around to ship him off to for the evening.)

Oct 24, 2010
VickySF in Not About Food