Date pudding at River Tavern Chester Ct - to die for
Squash blossoms at the Farm dinner in East lyme - still thinking of them
Salmon at Aspen in Old Saybrook - always better then I remember

We looked at all of those for our wedding in 05. They were stuffier than we wanted for the rehearsal. We ended up doing Sardellas. I haven't been there since but it's a Newport staple, Italian food. They have a back room, with a small private bar and served family style. We had about 40 people from all over the world, and the family style really broke the ice. Everyone loved the shrimp app, people still rave about it. It was a great casual night where lots of people got to know each other so the formal wedding the next day was a lot more fun. Here's their web site http://www.sardellas.com/index.php?ti... Good luck and Congrats