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Yeah, Sure, "Let's Have Coffee"

Personally, I'd rather have someone tell me nicely but firmly that they're simply not interested in the pleasure of my company, rather than endure the slow torture of excuse after excuse. Also, don't take rejection so seriously. Everybody can't like you and you can't like everybody. Of course, I'm a loner at heart (though for some reason people gravitate to me), so what do I know? :-)

Mar 24, 2010
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You Can't Take Him Anywhere

Being affianced to someone, even after a 7-year relationship, doesn't mean you're chained to the guy. What's wrong with going to a party solo? Is he that insecure? Anyway, since this guy has been like this for 7 years, I can only tell the letter writer "You knew the job was dangerous when you took it!" :-)

Mar 24, 2010
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Crusty-Plate Duty

I agree that this "Table Manners" column does seem to touch on topics from other recent columns, hence the slow response rate. Or maybe people simply have lives! :-) Anyway, I always ask if my help is needed. If they say no thanks, I won't force my help on them, especially folks who make it clear they have their own way of doing things.

Mar 14, 2010
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Caviar at the Kids' Table

Our Aspie daughter has severe allergies to peanuts, tree nuts, and sesame, plus she's particularly finicky about food textures. This may be at least partly because she has ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome (or so experts have claimed), though we're trying to get her to try at least one new food a month. Of course, the textures of pizza, chicken nuggets, and sweets don't bother her a bit! :-)

Mar 03, 2010
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On Servers Forgetting Orders

Knowing how busy and harried a wait staff in a busy restaurant must be, better they should swing by my table a couple of times to double-check that they're getting our orders right than bring the wrong order.

Feb 24, 2010
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Special Dishes, Secret Prices

With a recession (depression, whatever term you prefer) on and so many restaurants struggling, even closing, why do places like Diner insist on making it harder for budget-conscious patrons whose only crime is wanting to know how much their meal (and in turn, the tip) will cost? Just post the darn prices already!

Feb 17, 2010
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Cash-Strapped Birthday Dinners

If you're strapped for cash to the point that you have to beg your friends for money to finance the fiesta, you have no business having this shindig. The better bet would be to have an informal, small party with drinks and hors d'oeuvres and/or dessert that you're footing the bill for. An equally informal pot luck is another option. We're pretty informal at our home, and the folks we know like to cook and share their food for the heck of it, so we haven't had any issues in that regard.

Feb 10, 2010
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The Four Worst Restaurant Etiquette Gaffes

My general rule of thumb is to treat the wait staff as politely as you would like to be treated. Using a pleasant tone of voice helps, too; right or wrong, nobody likes to be snapped at, and a cold tone of voice won't win you any points, either.

Feb 05, 2010
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Super Bowl Food Faux Pas

Keeping the foodstuffs easy to make and easy to eat is a good rule of thumb at any TV-oriented gathering, if you ask me. :-)

Jan 28, 2010
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Don't Get Suckered on Valentine's Day

It seems to me the key here is to pay attention to the relationship well before you start thinking about Valentine's Day. Learn by doing. If you've truly taken the time to get to know your sweetie by really talking with her and paying close attention to her likes, dislikes, and little verbal and behavioral cues first, you'll have an easier time of it when you make your V-Day plans. That's how my sweetie did it, and became my husband of 20 years (and still going strong, not to put the proverbial whammy on it :-))!

Jan 20, 2010
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Can You Take Leftovers Home from a Party?

I agree that guests shouldn't just descend on the host's leftovers like locusts and scram, laden with food without permission. Nowadays, lots of hosts are on tight budgets and may very well be counting on those leftovers to tide them over until payday and the next trip to the grocery store! :-) If the host enthusiastically offers to let you bring a "care package" home with you, that's different (don't forget to thank him/her). For what it's worth, when I bring my gluten-free baked treats to gatherings with family and/or friends, I never have to worry about leftovers because whatever goodies weren't gobbled up are usually snatched up by everyone else to be taken home -- and that's 100% fine with me, because then I don't have leftover brownies, blondies, and GF Cranberry Bliss Bars taste-alikes sitting in my fridge or freezer calling my name! :-)

Jan 13, 2010
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Nagging Unsanitary Cooks

Whatever happened to the five-second rule? :-) Seriously, while I might do the occasional unsanitary thing while cooking just for myself when I'm alone (I'm lucky enough to be able to work from home), I wouldn't feed anything of questionable cleanliness/safety to my family or friends.

Jan 06, 2010
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Gender Bending in Restaurant Restrooms

MacTAC, I wholeheartedly agree with your idea for a gender neutral restroom facility. mountaincachers, as a mother who's leery of letting her ADHD/Asperger's Syndrome-afflicted child go into a strange restroom by herself, I feel exactly as you do about the possible perils of public restrooms. I say we parents need to err on the side of caution, and that more individual unisex restrooms or family restrooms or at least stalls for all would be a big help in so many ways.

Dec 27, 2009
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Gender Bending in Restaurant Restrooms

ratgirlagogo, you're so right! Back when I was just a wee (no pun intended :-)) sprout growing up in NYC, my late mother taught me to keep a list of the public restrooms in whatever part of town we happened to be in, just in case. My family and I have lost track of how many times this knowledge has come in handy not only for us, but for fellow "sufferers"! :-)

Dec 24, 2009
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Gender Bending in Restaurant Restrooms

I'm a gal, and if I really can't hold it in, or my child has to go, I have no qualms about barging into a men's room as a last resort, especially if it's a one-seater with a lock. Public restroom designers of the world, either make all stalls unisex, or give women's restrooms more stalls!

Dec 23, 2009
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Hovering Kitchen Guest Conundrum

When it's just hubby and me in the kitchen, no problem. If anybody else wants to get in on the act, I either give them a simple task to help with (or distract them with, as the case may be), or I make sure I prepare as much food in advance as I can, so it's just a matter of taking it out of the oven or pot, and bon appetit! :-)

Dec 16, 2009
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Sneaking Food into Movies

In a way, I have the best of both worlds. I get a small popcorn (hold the butter or facsimile thereof, please) and a small soda, but I also discreetly bring in a snack-size zipper-lock bag of my own gluten-free goodies. When I'm seeing films at our local independently-owned arthouse theater or second-run theater (a gorgeous vintage theater that's been declared a landmark), I don't mind paying the high price of soda and snacks because I know these indie folks really need the money.

Dec 01, 2009
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Sweet Potato Pancakes

Browning the sweet potato doesn't seem to make sense; it's like mixing hash browns into your pancake batter. Anyway, since we had lots of leftover mashed sweet potatoes on hand, we made the recipe with those and added another 1/2 cup each of flour and milk, and a variety of spices (cinnamon, ginger, cardamom) in addition to the two instances of nutmeg suggested. Incidentally, since I'm gluten-sensitive, I used gluten-free all-purpose flour and 1/2 teaspoon xanthan gum. You'd never know the pancakes weren't made with wheat flour! :-)

Nov 27, 2009
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How to Host a Turkey-Free Thanksgiving

Glad to see the topic is back on track! Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Nov 26, 2009
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Green Bean Casserole Redux

I've made it in the past, frozen it, and thawed/reheated green bean casserole, saving the topping for last (using caramelized onions as topping because they're tastier and gluten-free), and it got rave reviews and demands for seconds from our guests. Go for it!

Nov 22, 2009
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Green Bean Casserole Redux

Since I'm gluten-sensitive, I'm looking forward to trying this recipe using gluten-free flour for the Bechamel sauce!

Nov 11, 2009
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How to Host a Turkey-Free Thanksgiving

SeitansMinion (great handle!), I had to smile at your "tell it like it is" explanation for your wry use of the term "corpse" in regard to the turkey. We're irreverent that way at our omnivore home, too. For instance, my husband loves French dip and happily refers to the juices as "blood" rather than "dip," "squeezings," etc. :-)

Nov 06, 2009
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How to Host a Turkey-Free Thanksgiving

Good suggestions, Helena. This sort of mealtime fussiness is why my husband and child and I have begun to prefer nice intimate holiday dinners with just the three of us! :-)

Nov 04, 2009
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