Redd Wood is pretty casual but not slovenly. I don't think the food is as good as Redd (it's obviously different fare as well) so I wouldn't really go out of my way for it. It's a great lunch stop during wine tasting, though.

If you want something along the lines of Redd, look into Celadon in Napa. It's frequently overlooked but is outstanding. Same sort of "elevated California cuisine".

Otherwise, if you want to keep it casual and you can get a table at Ad Hoc, go for that.

I would like to second pinotho's Redd recommendation. That really shouldn't be missed.

Skip Bistro Don Giovanni. Overrated, overpriced, and not worth the hassle/bad service. I don't know why this place keeps popping up on "must dine" lists.

Ad Hoc is not going to be quiet or romantic. The food is quite good, but it's a madhouse.

If I were to take all this into account and pick two places for dinner, it would be Oenotri and Redd, no question. Angele and Zuzu can both be done at lunch. Bistro Jeanty, while a longtime favorite, just isn't in the same league as these four.

Grace's Table is a good mention (the burgers are probably the best in the Valley, to be honest). I've never had a bad meal there and the staff is friendly.

For the under "$60 for two" budget you actually will be cutting it close with Grace's, though.

Bistro Sabor on First Street does an excellent job and is well in the budget zone. Very popular with locals, very fresh. Great service.

You may also want to check out Carpe Diem wine bar just off the corner of 2nd and Main. It *might* hit the ceiling of the budget but is also worth a look. It gets crowded FAST.

The Oxbow Market has lots of good dining options for $30/person. I can't think of one I wouldn't recommend.

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First Street Cafe
4337 1st St Ste C, Pleasanton, CA 94566

Bistro Sabor
1126 1st St, Napa, CA 94559

Grace's Table
1400 2nd St, Napa, CA 94559

I would avoid Downtown Joe's; if you MUST have a "Brewery Experience" in the Napa Valley then Silverado is the way to go. If you just want some good beers then I'd advise crossing the street from Downtown Joe's and hit up Carpe Diem Wine Bar (just off the corner of 2nd & Main). They're a great wine bar but also have a respectable selection of good beer...AND excellent food.

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Downtown Joe's Restaurant
902 Main Street, Napa, CA 94559

I'm going to agree...but wouldn't classify this as Austrian as much as it is "just" German. Having been to Germany plenty of times I'll go ahead and say this is the best I've had in SF. Yes, the schnitzel is tops- as good as any I've had in Germany. The salumi platter has the best speck & bread I've had on similar presentations in "The Fatherland". Beer selection = winning.

Yes, it's insanely crowded, but the servers keep an incredibly cheerful demeanor (I, for one, would go insane after one night of working the tables or the bar).

Well, "best" is subjecttive as all get-out, but let me cast my vote for "favorite": Ancien winery in Napa. They're too small to have their own tasting room, so you can try their stuff at the Vintner's Collective in downtown Napa on the corner of Main & Clinton. Most of their fruit comes from either Carneros, although they have a Russian River pinot as well as a Sonoma Valley pinot. All are excellent & all are in your price range.