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Thanksgiving Turkey Snob Dilemma

Thanksgiving Turkey Snob Dilemma My mother-in-law is cooking Thanksgiving, and I think she's probably going to get a grocery-store turkey injected with weird saline and chemicals. How can I steer her towards something more sustainable/natural? READ MORE

Trick-or-Treating in the Rich Neighborhood

Trick-or-Treating in the Rich Neighborhood I recently read an article in my local paper about the "best neighborhoods for trick-or-treating" and was a little annoyed by the premise, which seemed to be that it's now de rigueur for families to drive around town trolling for the best loot. When I was a kid, my parents would never have driven me to the other side of town to trick-or-treat, and I think doing so is bad form. READ MORE

How to Fix a Flubbed Tip

How to Fix a Flubbed Tip A few months ago, I was invited to a high-end New York restaurant to review it. Usually when reviewing restaurants, I pay my own expenses, but in this case the meal was comped. Still, I wanted to leave a tip. I had forgotten my credit card at home, so I simply left a $10 bill, all I had in my wallet. Later, upon calculating the tip, I realized that it should have been well over $25. How does one remedy this? READ MORE

The Etiquette of Mushroom Foraging

The Etiquette of Mushroom Foraging My friend forages for mushrooms, and knows I'm interested in doing so myself. But every time I ask him if I can go, he just gets this smug little smile and says, "I don't want to give away my spots." It seems kind of rude. Or am I just not wise to the ways of mushroom foraging? READ MORE

Is Registering for a $2,400 Espresso Maker Rude?

Is Registering for a $2,400 Espresso Maker Rude? My fiancé and I are in our late 30s and we already have a fully equipped kitchen, so I won't be asking for pots and pans on our wedding registry. But we are considering asking for a $2,400 espresso system. I don't expect any one person to buy that for us obviously, but if 10 people wanted to go in on it together, that's something I actually want. Is it tacky to even put it on there though? READ MORE

Who Should Pay for the Bachelorette Party?

Who Should Pay for the Bachelorette Party? A good friend of mine is getting married in a few weeks, and we recently became aware of the plans for the bachelorette party, which are rather unexpected. Part of the evening includes an exercise activity between dinner and dancing. The kicker here isn't that we'll be all sweaty after dinner and before dancing, but that out of the blue, they've assumed that all of the guests will chip in for the cost of the activity. I was always under the impression that when you throw a party, you cover the cost. Am I being a cheapskate for being annoyed that I am expected to chip in? READ MORE

The Etiquette of Communal Tables

The Etiquette of Communal Tables A restaurant trend I'm noticing lately is to be seated at community-style shared tables if your party doesn't fill the whole table. I'm never really sure what's appropriate when my party is being seated with strangers. I don't want to intrude on someone's romantic evening out, nor do I want to be rude. What is the best way to approach the communal table? READ MORE

What to Do When a Friend’s Home-Brew Sucks

What to Do When a Friend’s Home-Brew Sucks I have a friend who always brings some home-brew when he comes over and asks me to tell him what I think. Some of it tastes really bad. Should I tell him the truth? READ MORE

Eating the Placenta: It Tastes Like Squab!

Eating the Placenta: It Tastes Like Squab! Some friends of mine had a home birth and are very gung-ho about the fact that they ate their placenta. Am I in the wrong for considering this oversharing, or has placenta-eating become mainstream enough that it's politically incorrect of me to have a problem with it? READ MORE

Is It Rude to Specify End Times for Parties?

Is It Rude to Specify End Times for Parties? I am planning a small drinks party and am concerned that some of my guests will not leave until after midnight. Is it rude to specify an ending time on the invitation? READ MORE